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I’m sitting at my 6-year-old’s gymnastics class, watching her try a new skill she cannot figure out. You can see the frustration building. The pause. The near tears. That look that says, Why can’t I just do this already?

Every parent knows what comes next. The pep talk on the car ride home. The reassurance that new things are hard, that practice helps, that she’s doing great just for trying.

And while I’m saying all of that to her, I’m thinking about how much adults forget this applies to us too.

Because here’s the truth: learning new skills is uncomfortable, messy, and usually humbling. And most people don’t actually hate learning - they hate the feeling of being bad at something.

I know this firsthand.

One of the hardest skills for me has been building deep relationships. Not surface-level, polite, transactional relationships - real ones. The kind where you connect, open up, and invest time. I’m not naturally good at it. I can come across as cold or mysterious when really, I just don’t have that skill dialed in yet.

And the comparison doesn’t help. Eric is incredible with people. It comes easily to him. Watching that made the gap feel even bigger, which honestly made me avoid it longer than I should have.

That avoidance cost me opportunities. Doors didn’t open the same way. Not because people didn’t like me - but because relationships are a skill, and I hadn’t put in the reps.

I’m still working on it. Constantly. And the only reason I’ve gotten better is because I stopped pretending it wasn’t a skill I needed and accepted that being uncomfortable was part of the deal.

That’s what I see when I watch my kids struggle. And it’s what I see in dentists who start practices and hit their first real roadblocks.

We go through four years of dental school, survive something legitimately hard, and come out thinking, Okay, I’ve paid my dues. The rest should be easier.

Then we own a practice - and suddenly the hard part isn’t dentistry. It’s leadership. Hiring. Communication. Money. Systems. Decision-making. All skills no one told you would feel this foreign.

When those things don’t come easily, a lot of people label it burnout. Or say they’re just “not good at business.” Or decide something must be wrong.

But nothing is wrong.

You just don’t have the skill yet.

The problem isn’t the difficulty. It’s the lack of frustration tolerance. The willingness to sit in that uncomfortable middle long enough to get better. Some people quit the moment it doesn’t click. And that’s the difference between those who grow and those who stay stuck.

Skills compound. Not just technically, but emotionally. Once you’ve learned a few hard ones, you trust yourself more. You panic less. You stop outsourcing your confidence. You realize that struggling isn’t a sign you’re failing - it’s proof you’re expanding.

That’s the lesson I want my kids to learn. And it’s the one most practice owners need to hear.

Being bad at something isn’t a problem. Giving up because it’s hard is.

-Dr. Alex

P.S. This is Eric, five minutes after meeting someone for the first time.

P.P.S. One of the hardest skills I had to learn was getting everything out of my head and into systems. That’s why I built Milo. It’s launching in February — jump on the waitlist and I’ll send you early access before it’s public + a bonus scorecard to see which systems you're missing.